Create Your Ideal Self in 4 Easy Steps
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Create Your Ideal Self in 4 Easy Steps

“The most creative act you will ever undertake is the act of creating yourself.” – Deepak Chopra

If you want to manifest your dream life, who would you need to become to be in harmony with that ideal life? Who is your Ideal Self?

Your Ideal Self is the description of the person that you would very much like to be if you could embody the qualities that you most aspire to.

There are four steps involved in creating your Ideal Self. Let’s move through each step:

1. Create a blueprint for your ideal life.

Once you know what you want your future to look like, you’ll have a clearer idea of the person you will need to become to align with that vision. (Click here to learn how to create a blueprint for your ideal life).

2. Connect with your Higher Self.

Your Higher Self (or Inner Being as Abraham-Hicks calls it) is the non-physical part of you that is always guiding you and will help you to navigate your way to creating your Ideal Self.

“Your higher self exists in a realm where all beings are united as one multidimensional consciousness. Your everyday consciousness is an aspect of your higher self that lives in your physical reality. Your higher self sends you impulses to be loving and united with others. Your higher self knows harmony, order, and light; when you add these to your life you are operating as your higher self.” – Orin / Sanaya Roman, Spiritual Growth

3. Choose the qualities of your Ideal Self:

  • What are your core values?
  • What are your character traits?
  • What are your habits?
  • What do you do well?
  • How do spend your time?

You are the one, and only one, who determines who you are. You have within you the ability to be who you want to be. It’s a matter of conscious choice.

4. Start Practicing.

Once you have created a vision of your Ideal Self, begin practicing being that person. Live by your core values. Embody your ideal character traits. Practice your new habits. Spend your time as your Ideal Self as if your ideal life is already manifested.

You don’t have to do it all overnight. Take baby steps. Commit to one new change a week to start moving toward becoming your Ideal Self.

Two powerful techniques to help expedite changes are positive affirmations and visualization.


Since every thought you think and every word you speak is an affirmation, choose thoughts and words that support the person you want to be. Your limiting beliefs and negative self-talk can be overcome when you redirect your thinking with positive affirmations. And over time, you will be influenced by your new beliefs and positive self-talk.

For example, if you choose “fearless” as a desired character trait, you can repeat “I am bold, courageous, full of life, passion, and self-belief.”

With a bit of practice, positive thinking will become natural for you. Your affirmations can help to move you in the direction of your Ideal Self.


Creative visualization is a technique that uses your imagination to create what you want. It is similar to daydreaming but with more focused intent. Visualizing is a powerful tool that can help you to manifest money, attract a soul mate, earn a living doing work that you love, acquire possessions, achieve success – and become your ideal self, simply by using the power of your mind.

“Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will.” — George Bernard Shaw

Spend time regularly imagining different scenarios as your Ideal self. As you practice being a higher version of you, your Ideal Self will become more and more familiar until it feels natural and you become what you have imagined.

Be willing to shed your old identity.

When you focus on creating your ideal self, you’re essentially raising the bar for yourself. Your “old self” will resist this due to feelings of insecurity and fear of the unknown. Release the urge to cling to the familiar and embrace a “I’ve got this” attitude.

Every morning, remind yourself about the person you want to be, and reconnect with your vision whenever you begin to slip back into old patterns. You’ll make mistakes and slip on occasion and that’s okay. The commitment you’ve made to your new intentions will gradually meld into the beliefs you hold about who you are.

Soon you won’t be reminding yourself that you’re a fearless person; you’ll be one. You won’t be managing your impatience; you will have become more patient. It will happen slowly, but it will happen. Remember, baby steps. You are walking a new path. Put one foot in front of the other, pace yourself, and stay connected to your vision of your Ideal Self.